A friend recently asked me ,"Should I buy the beautiful dress from the trendy boutique that's out of my price range that I feel fabulous in OR should I buy the dress that is just ok (it's affordable but it's only so-so from a discount store)?
Since I help women shift their money situation I had to think about this carefully. I mean in the 80's of excesses and tons of credit card debt I would have told my friend to go for the fabulous because that's what I would have done. Being older and wiser I realize it's not about the money.
It's about self love. My old views of self love (really self abuse) were to spend now and figure it out later. Now as I have learned to have a loving relationship with myself and my money; the answer will require a few more questions.
Will the dress bring you more ease and fun in your life? Will it contribute to you and facilitate you into a glowing goddess ready to draw even more ideal clients to you? If so, then definitely.
But if the dress puts more stress within you and will now create more struggle and worry in your life; Giving you more questions like how will I make rent? How will I pay my electric this month?
Will I have to borrow money to get my basics taken care of? Then no, buying the dress is not really loving you.
Your life and your decisions are all choices. They are not wrong or right, just some choices bring more ease than others.
Whether your money dilemma is about a business decision, a house purchase, or a dress; Remember it's never really about the money. Money is just one of those things we like to make a problem.
After all if you didn't have a money problem you'd probably create a love crisis or a health issue. People love their problems it keeps them focused on what they don't want or have.
This focus creates more problems and above all it gives people something to do besides creating a life from joy and fun.
Imagine what you could do with all that free time if you choose to be without problems?
Money relationships can be confusing. Email me your questions about money or any of your life challenges and if chosen you'll get to see you answer here. firstname.lastname@example.org